Be honest: do you really think the exact same necklace is right for all of your bridesmaids? Or the same vase makes sense for the people throwing you those beautiful parties? Don’t get us wrong, we love traditions, but when it comes to gifting, it’s time for an update. It’s a big day with big personalities and big gift choices to make, but there’s no reason they should all be the same. Here’s how to make it easy to find the right presents for everyone on your list.
They’re your ride or die crew that’s there every step of the way helping you celebrate and manage all of the craziness. They’re the devoted loved ones throwing you the amazing celebrations you’ll remember always. Don’t they deserve presents that reflect their unique tastes and preferences? Of course they do! Chances are, Cindy loves florals and Stephanie can’t stand them. Or vice versa. Or Daphne only decorates in black and white while Linda loves bright pops of color. So the one-size-fits-all formula just isn’t a great idea. Turns out, there is a way to thrill every one of them—without killing yourself in the process—by following a few basic principles of thoughtful gifting.
Wedding #GiftingWin 1: Take yourself out of the equation
One of the most common gifting pitfalls, according to dearduck’s founder Katy Aucoin, is the notion that simply because you like something, the recipient will, too. We’re probably all guilty, at one time or another, of smelling say, a candle, and thinking “Mmmmm, I love this, and so will Aunt Susie!” Wrong. “It’s so human to imagine that something that appeals to you will work as a gift, but we need to start training ourselves to really think about the recipient and what she’ll love.” Everyone has super-specific likes and dislikes, and guessing is like throwing spaghetti at a wall to see if it sticks. Take your cues from the person you’re gifting to, or let dearduck do the work for you.
Wedding #GiftingWin 2: Don’t overspend to overcompensate
No matter how pricey a gift, if it’s not right it’s still going to be a bummer. “When we’re not sure about a gift, we can have a tendency to overspend, which feels like the answer but doesn’t really solve anything,” says Aucoin. “Because it’s not about money, it’s about connection.” So true. There’s nothing that compares to that feeling of opening up the perfect present and feeling like someone totally “gets” you. It’s a moment of feeling seen, heard, and understood. dearduck’s filters make it easy to stay within your budget while still finding something meaningful for the lucky recipient.
Wedding #GiftingWin 3: Forget gift guides
While it can be tempting to find gifts in the many wedding gift guides out there, Aucoin believes they’re part of the problem, not the solution. “Usually, gift guides are way too general to be very helpful. They’re great for brainstorming and seeing what’s out there, but when it comes to choosing a gift, they can’t take into account each person’s different tastes.” So instead of browsing general guides, spend a few minutes inviting your gifting circle to join dearduck. That way, we can curate gifts based on what they’ll love and you can spend your time basking in the glow of thoughtful gifting.
Download the dearduck app so you can find perfect presents for the bridesmaids and hostesses in your life. Images: Paramount and Universal Pictures